WHEN YOU NEED TO USE SPERM DONATION: YOUR PARTNER’S REACTION
Infertility means that a couple has been trying to get pregnant for at least one year without success. This can be due to health issues in both the woman and the man. In nearly half of the cases, the reason is male factor for infertility.
Although about 50% of couples with reproductive problems suffer from a male factor for infertility, men are generally less likely to undergo fertility assessment. One reason for this is the misconception that male infertility is associated with impotence or decreased masculinity.
IN WHICH CASES DO YOU NEED DONOR SPERM?
Male infertility can be due to a variety of factors, which include genetic disorders, illnesses, injuries, medications, as well as some general aspects of health and lifestyle. These factors may contribute to problems related to spermatogenesis and semen production.
WHAT REACTIONS COULD YOU EXPECT FROM YOUR PARTNER?
The inability to have biological children fundamentally changes the live of every person, regardless of their gender. Ever since ancient times, the greatest «proof» of manhood has been the ability to continue the bloodline. Therefore, the need for donor sperm can generate a whole spectrum of emotions in your partner.
Some men tend to agree with this option, while others take the news quite hard and may even get depressed. Undoubtedly, the shock is much more pronounced in men who have just found out that they are suffering from infertility. Quite often, the partner feels helpless, unnecessary, and as if he has failed his wife. Guided by a sense of guilt, some men would even think about separation despite having a pretty solid relationship.
WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?
Whatever the response of your partner is, open communication is the way to finding a solution. This will probably be one of the most difficult conversations you will ever have because it affects not only you but your future child as well. Here are some tips on how you approach the situation:
— Talk when both of you are well-rested. Fatigue can significantly worsen the discussion.
— Talk about your feelings. Does your partner agree with you getting pregnant with donor sperm? How would he feel about raising a child who is not genetically related to him? What would you tell your family, friends, and one day your child?
— Try to be empathetic. Before you say anything that would hurt your partner, try putting yourself in his shoes.
— Seek professional help. A psychologist can be a great mediator when we need to have a serious conversation. With their help, you and your partner will be able to reach the solution that best meets the requirements of your relationship.
If you are in this situation, do not hesitate to contact us. Our psychologist at New Life Clinic has experience with couples suffering from infertility and she certainly can be very helpful to you!